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Monday, October 31, 2011

Gisele the Little Consumer

My sister Terra recently sent me an email with a link to a family album featuring our darling niece, Gisele:

"Gisele đi Walmart vi ông ni, cô Ý, và ba. Đi đâu thy có cái gì đẹp là Gisele bỏ trong bao hoặc cái sô Halloween, đầy nhóc, phải nh cô Ý cm dùm. Doca bt Gisele bỏ lại tt cả chỉ cho mua mt thứ mà thôi. Cũng may là nó không khóc nhè. Doca còn cho nó biết là trẻ em gia đình nghèo không có đồ chơi. Nó có vẻ hiểu. Trên đường v nhà, Gisele tuyên bố mt câu xanh dn là Walmart has everything we want."

English translation:

Gisele went to Walmart with her dad, Auntie Terra, and Grandpa.  As she wandered through the store, she stuffed everything that caught her fancy in her shopping bag and Halloween bucket.  She quickly filled them to the brim and Auntie Terra had to help carry her stuff.  Gisele's dad made her put everything back except one item.  Thank goodness she didn't whine or cry.  Her dad explained there were kids who didn't have any toys to play with.  Gisele seemed to understand.  On the way home, she declared with absolute conviction:  "Walmart has everything we want!"









 


Gisele seemed dazed after all that shopping


Sunday, October 30, 2011

Back to the bat cave

Hello, Mama!

So I have been thinking, and I've saved up some money over a period of time to send you guys a little surprise. It's supposed to arrive tomorrow (my receipt pretty much assured that it would)
just in time for Ki's birthday so be on the lookout for an ice-cold bucket of surprisey-goodness in the face! I did some research and invested some time (and moolah but don't worry, I've saved up) into this little gift of mine, so make sure everyone enjoys it while they can because be warned it doesn't last long! Apparently it will only last the weekend or maybe a teeny-tiny bit longer, so, yes, enjoy the weekend! And meanwhile poor Bi will be sitting and reading and doing homework for a long time. :( But it is fine with me because just the thought of the surprise will be worth it! Haha, I can't wait until it arrives. Muhahahaha!!!

Love

Andrea

I had expected a cooler of perishable treats (maybe cheesecake or Omaha steaks or something along that line) from Andrea to come by FedEx for her sister's birthday, as her email was apparently hinting.  Audrey's already got plans to celebrate with her friends in L.A. the weekend prior to her birthday and with the family at her favorite steak house, Ruth's Chris, on the actual day (Monday).  After a one-month vegan stint, she was more than ready to turn back into a full-fledged carnivore beginning with her birthday feast.  Her kind-and-gentle partner, Lauren, was likewise anticipatory.  "I can't wait to eat meat again!"  she exclaimed while sniffing forbidden dishes on our stovetop.  When my two at-home daughters announced they were committed to be aspiring vegetarians for a whole month, I said that was OK with me, but I wasn't going to pamper them by planning two different menus everyday, so they had better be prepared to forage for themselves mostly.  Audrey stuck to her resolve through the entire period, but Lauren had broken down once or twice and sampled my cooking knowingly.  She would ask me what's for dinner, and when I answered, "Why should it matter because you were going to eat vegeterian anyway?" she'd retort, "You could make rotini and I'd pick away the meat and just eat the pasta!"  She'd also forbidden me to prepare my signature roast during her sabbatical from meat as she would feel way too tempted.

On Saturday night the kids trotted off to their dad's and I fell asleep while waiting for our laundry to run through the wash.  Audrey returned bright and early in the morning to wake me up to ferry her and her friends to the Irvine train station for their planned day trip to L.A.  My two younger kids came through the door later around 11, and following behind them wordlessly with a smug smile was Andrea, back from Berkeley for the weekend without me realizing until that moment.  I almost had a heart attack.

She had spent the night with her siblings at their dad's after managing to surprise everyone by showing up unannounced near midnight.  She'd cooked up this elaborate ruse, tricking even her cousin by calling for a pick-up at the train station pretending it was Audrey who was stranded there with a rapidly out-of-charge cell phone and needed a ride home.  When Vivian came for the rescue, she was flabbergasted to see Andrea stepping out on the train platform instead of her older sister.

They arrived home near midnight and it was full house at her dad's as Audrey's friends were also doing a sleepover there following their  day trip.  After the initial buzz quieted down, Andrea went upstairs to see Kiet and found him soundly sleeping in his bed.  She poked him; he opened his eyes and said, "Whatever!" then fell right back to sleep.

I was aghast that Andrea had taken the train.  We'd talked about her upcoming visits for the holidays several times and I was always insistent that she fly.  Audrey later told me Andrea had set two personal challenges for herself to complete before her Nov. 7th birthday... one was taking the train home to visit and the other, guess this... was painting her nails for the first time!  We were all snickering a little because the second challenge had seemed so trivial compared to the first, but then Andrea was always a tomboy never remotely interested in the conventional girl's beauty routines and milestones.

It had taken her an entire day of travel to get home, and she looked tired and disheveled, but after a quick shower Andrea had the natural glow of someone happy with her life and where she's going.  There was no trace of the dreaded Freshman fifteen on her small frame.  She told me she'd flubbed her itinerary quite a bit because of an unfortunate incident involving her roommate, who had offered to see her off.  Andrea had originally discouraged the girl from coming along because she'd already mapped out her 1-hour early morning walk to the train station and didn't want her roommate to go through the trouble of walking back to the dorm by herself afterwards.  But the latter suggested that they take the bus together as she was more familiar with bus routes near campus.  Andrea, who had never taken public transportation before, reluctantly agreed.  The morning of her trip, she woke up to a note by her roommate saying she's sorry she couldn't make it.  By that time, it was too late to walk and Andrea had no choice but to figure out the bus schedule by herself.  She managed to get to the right stop on time, but two buses heartlessly went past her one after the other.  Feeling dejected, she walked back to the dorm to map out her travel routes and times over again before setting out on foot to the train station.  This time she'd missed her train by a hair but was allowed to exchange tickets for a later train.  Her subsequent travel involved several transfers... train to bus and vice versa.... with stops along cities she'd never been to, before she finally reached the Irvine train station in the dead of night.

Andrea had only one day with us before heading back to Berkeley Monday morning.  We visited her grandparents, took Lauren to her lyrical dance class and watched her practice for a little while, went to an open house together (I was looking to be a slumlord), then it was almost dinnertime.  Andrea hid out in her old bat cave, which has become Kiet's, for a couple hours before reuniting with Audrey, back from L.A. for dinner with their dad.  It was like old times with all four kids in the house again, except it was over too soon.


Andrea with me and Grandpa the summer before she left for college


Monday, October 24, 2011

Estates and Manors, Part II

Since I never learned to drive the freeway, my sister Terra had to sacrifice one of her flex days to take me apartment hunting in L.A.  The drive there was uneventful, but as we got closer to our destinations, I suddenly realized my already short roster of apartment leads was getting shorter by the minute as soon as I got a glimpse of the first few run-down neighborhoods with tremendously sad-looking exteriors.  Maybe I’m being a little mean, but it certainly seemed ironic that any rental property with the word “Manor” or “Villa” in its name was guaranteed to end up looking nothing like its namesake suggestion. I probably should've already known since the word “estate” was similarly degraded in my own corner of Orange County, where it used to confuse me greatly to acknowledge Tustin Ranch Estates as an enclave of to-die-for luxury homes in contrast to numerous mobile home parks with names that also ended loftily in "Estate!"

Having Terra accompany me as my designated driver turned out to be an eminently wise decision, as I could have never negotiated the streets of LA and look for a property’s address at the same time without causing an accident.  We set out early and by 10:30 had arrived at our first scheduled stop, a dark and foreboding neighborhood consisting exclusively of rental complexes. After gingerly getting out of our car to confirm the unit's street address, we wandered around the fenced building for several minutes trying to locate an elusive entrance that would lead us to the leasing office. Unsuccessful, we called the number listed for the complex and discovered that its property management was being done off premise – a definite red flag given that almost every single L.A. apartment review I’d seen had enumerated complaints regarding unresponsive staff, and every apartment ad had made a point of touting their on-site management (if they had it) as a big positive.  Looking back through the years I’ve lived in safe, boring ol’ Orange County, I realized I’ve never appreciated straightforward, dependable Tustin and Irvine more than now.

We passed by several transient neighborhoods and witnessed what seemed to be an alarming rate of tenant turnover.  In the middle of the day, there was a horde of people carting off their meager belongings across the street into an apartment building that from the outside looked like it couldn't have offered much of an improvement over their old housing.  It’s difficult for me to believe these tenants would actually experience any difference in rents or amenities by moving out.  Or were they being evicted?!

I was mulling this depressing question and feeling rather downhearted when my sister noted we had gotten down to a single remaining name on our list.  And it was sort of ridiculous because we had just visited Tuscani Villas, but were now heading toward Tuscany Apartments.  Since the former turned out to be no villa (trust me!), I was hoping against hope that the website info. for Tuscany Apts approximately conformed to some truth-in-advertising basic standards.  Actually, I had to remind myself that beggars can’t be choosers in order to overcome my initial reluctance to even check out the place after a question posed by the receptionist over the phone the day before took me entirely by surprise:  “Are you looking to rent a one-bedroom, or a bed within a room?”

That last phrase conjured up images of sardine-like bunks stacked closely one on top of another.  The reality was, fortunately, much more palatable.  Tuscany Apts. offered posh apartment-style student housing, with the only drawback being you had to share a bedroom with another person (of the same sex) to keep down costs.  But unlike cramped dorm rooms, these bedrooms are reasonably-sized, each having its own attached bath with double sinks.  I learned that the complex was only 6 years new (a rarity in L.A.), and used to house USC students exclusively, but since new management took over not too long ago, they had opened it up to the general population.

It was a pleasant surprise to know Audrey could enjoy truly luxurious living accommodations by learning to be content with dormitory-style sleeping quarters.  If she were a high-earning professional insisting on privacy, she could opt to pay twice the quoted basic rent to get a bedroom all to herself.  But in order to keep her rent affordable (under $900), Audrey could pare down to a still very livable bipod or tripod arrangement in a Las Vegas-style luxury suite with either 3 or 5 other tenants, each pair having their own bedroom tucked away in a separate wing and everyone sharing spacious and inviting common living spaces (dining room, kitchen & living room) located in the middle of the suite.

As part of our tour, we were taken up to the building's roof deck which looked like an al fresco laptop station where students lounged around on cushy patio furniture.  The media room on the first floor was similarly plush and could be reserved as a clubhouse for college parties and get-togethers. I inquired about the percentage of USC students living in the building and the apartment manager said they weren’t allowed to disclose it due to fair-housing laws, but during our half hour there I was able to observe people coming in and out the elevators and the vast majority did look to be college students leaving and returning from class (the USC campus is directly across the street).  I figured a working professional would find it difficult to tolerate this kind of shared-living arrangement, especially if they had families, which was why all the studios, single bedrooms, and 2-bedroom apartments in the building were taken up, leaving exactly one vacancy in a bipod suite and a few more in the tripods.  But for Audrey’s purpose, it was as good as it gets.  She brightened especially at the prospect of socializing with people her own age after work, but looked a little disappointed while surveying the model suite's bedroom and realizing she wouldn’t be able to have half as much closet space and vanity surface as what she currently enjoyed at home.  A clotheshorse dilemma!  My sister Terra suggested that instead of taking her entire wardrobe to L.A., Audrey could come home to visit on the weekends and bring a week’s worth of outfits with her each time on her trips back.

For me, the moral of the day was, "An Apartment is always an apartment, but a Villa is sometimes not a villa."  Ditto for Estates and Manors!



Audrey checking out Tuscany's sundeck





Relaxing in rooftop gazebo

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Estates and Manors, Part I

A few weeks ago, I showed Audrey a 24-hour-new Redfin listing and asked her whether she thought she'd be happy in the featured cute little condo. Audrey smiled and said, very reasonably, "Do I really need it, Mom?" "Nah," I conceded, "but there's never been a better time to buy than now and it would be a good step toward saving for your future. If I gave you the down payment, you could actually afford the monthly mortgage on your own salary." She had obliged me by viewing all the pretty photos and afterwards said that she would think about it, but presently she was happy at home and not in a hurry to move out. As it turned out, Audrey wouldn't be able to qualify to buy any real estate anyhow, as I was informed by the BoA loan specialist that her job was too new and her credit likewise incipient. But it still amazed me that my eldest daughter didn't jump at the chance to escape from my hovering as I'd erroneously assumed.
We had a few follow-up discussions about her lodging options after I came to realize  that even though Audrey never complained about her long train commutes, she wouldn’t have any sort of a life if she continued her pattern of 12-hour workdays.  Every morning she hurried out the door at 7:20 to catch the train, and didn’t come back to the Tustin station until 7:30 in the evening.  In addition, her train fares totaled almost $400 a month (and I didn’t even count the tickets that went unused because Audrey was in the habit of losing her wallet every few weeks), so it seemed almost cheaper just to bite the bullet and have her relocate to L.A.
One thing I quickly realized during my apartment search for Audrey was that good ol' Orange County had spoiled us for far too long. After getting used to planned neighborhoods and their manicured surroundings, I was shell-shocked to be reminded of what renters had to choose from in careworn urban cities like Los Angeles.
It made me feel positively ancient reminiscing about the time I lived in L.A. after moving south from Seattle on the heels of my June '89 wedding. How did I ever manage to survive 3 whole years in the City of Angels? Must have been youthful and blissful ignorance! I remember waiting anxiously for my then-husband to pick me up from work to go into hiding when the Rodney King riots were lighting up the streets of L.A. I remember having to repeatedly replace our windshield and car windows every time transients smashed them in looking for change. I remember the countless parking tickets we incurred just doing normal grocery shopping because the store's parking lot was always full and we ended up having to park on the streets. I remember plunking down $900 for our first month’s rent and an equal amount for security deposit on a one-bedroom unfurnished apartment twenty some years ago in the heart of downtown L.A. (Skid Row).  How could I expect things to be better now?
It came as no surprise that a good L.A. apartment would be hard to come by, and finding one that's also reasonably-priced practically an impossible feat. Still, I was hopeful that an initial search online would point me in the approximate direction and besides, what other alternative did I have?  Leaving this task to Audrey was pretty much leaving it to chance.
After reading numerous apartment reviews in which the mentions of crickety stairs, inoperable elevators, broken air conditioners, and assorted vermins popped up with alarming frequency, I decided to include the apartment building's age among my search filters, and to eliminate from consideration any structure that existed before the 1950’s. Unfortunately, I soon discovered every other newer complex was designated as affordable housing that admitted tenants based on lower-income qualifications. Even though Audrey’s starting salary was paltry compared to those of graduates from almost every field except maybe the liberal arts, it was enough to effectively disqualify her for affordable housing status. And almost every eligible building remaining had an elderly admission criterion.  So that left me choosing between dilapidated structures in questionable neighborhoods or nicer, modern facilities with prohibitive rents for my able-bodied daughter.
Having perused apartment reviews for a week or so, I became addicted to my reads-of-the-day.  Some were positively comical. A sample:

* After visiting this place and dealing with on-site staff a handful of times... i get the picture. This place is nothing but a joke. Some of the things the on-site staff say to you make you wonder if they are pulling an april's fool joke on you cuz it's just so ridiculous, but nope, it's real. Wow, a living standing joke of an apartment. Stay the hell away please.

* The staff is not only incompetent, they are extremely rude. The ceiling leaks! If it's raining outside, it is definitely raining IN your apartment as well... Their excuse? "We can't help the rain."

* Problems I have had in the nine months I have lived here:

- The evicted resident in the apartment below me was allowed (with the management's knowledge and permission) to sneak back into her apartment. She was upset about being evicted. She soaked her mattress in gasoline and set it on fire. My apartment was smoke damaged (about $1,500 worth) and the building claimed no responsibility. It took them over a month to repair my door, which had been kicked down by the firemen, and they repaired it with sub-par materials. It also took one month and threats of legal action to force them to clean my carpets and walls, all the while I'm breathing in the toxic smoke fumes from the gasoline-mattress-carpet-asbestos-ceiling fire.

- The parking garage is not secure. Three cars, including mine, were burglarized, and my stereo was stolen. The building claims no responsibility, even though it's supposed to be locked, patrolled, and camera-observed. The garage door stands open constantly, and these guys disabled the cameras, so they had obviously been here before while nobody was paying attention. Damage to my vehicle, and amount to replace the stereo: total $1,200. Building, again, says, "That sucks, but it's not our problem."

- The apartment above us had been improperly renovated, and the drain on the water filter just drained into the wall. Luckily we had no expensive electronics sitting on the counter when the disgusting brown water came crashing down. Building still has not repaired the ceiling, despite repeated requests (that was 6 months ago).

- The entire building is cockroach-infested. Not little ones, mind you... the ones the size of house cats. Their version of an exterminator is the maintenance guy with a spray bottle full of soap, or something. We still have to have traps and replace them every month, even though we keep the kitchen free of open food.

- They are re-plumbing the building, and turn the water off between 9 and 5 every weekday. It says in our rental contract that utilities will be connected at ALL times during the residency. They are in violation of our rental agreement, but claim they don't have to follow the rental agreement in this instance. WHAT?!

I could continue, but you get the picture. Tell all your friends. I am probably going to file a claim in small claims court, and will also file a complaint with the Better Business Bureau. Do not, for your own sake and for the sake of your loved ones, ever consider living here. Ever.

John L.
Los Angeles, CA
8/26/2011

Very noisy. Living in the Towers is like living in a factory -- the constant drone of the ancient, cheap, worn out air conditioners. Most tower apartments do not have air conditioners, so you will want to open your windows. But you can't because of the noise from your neighbors' window air conditioners. And the noise goes straight through the windows if you close them. The noise is stressful, shortens your life, and causes disease.


Duchess T.
Hancock Park, CA
3/6/2011


I've lived here almost 10 years and still live here and think it's not as HORRIBLE as people may say it is.


PARKING: I pay $100 a month for a small space in a gated parking lot, but the gate is always open an my spot is being used by maintenance guys and rude people who think it's ok to guest park in reserved spaces. I would cancel this, but then I run the risk of parking 5 blocks away (not very safe at night.)

SECURITY: Looks good, but REALLY? Anyone can park in here (and it's free for those of you who want to walk over to the GROVE). I think it's the only free parking around... they never check ID.


ELEVATORS: CONSTANTLY breaking down. When I say, breaking down - it doesn't stop at specified floors, it jerks, it feels like the Tower of Terrors ride at Disneyland, AND sometimes, you are in it and it just won't open. I guess it's good for me cuz I am now forced to climb 12 flights of stairs regularly and have lost a bit of weight. I just feel really bad for my 80 year-old neighbors who end up being stranded in the lobby for hours not being able to get home.) I think the worst in the 6 years was the elevators out for a week at a time. It's a hassle when you are trying to do laundries..

O
h yeah LAUNDRY ROOM: there's really no rules set. There's usually one or two machines broken (or really dirty), and although there are about 10 washers, usually there are one or two people who hog all the machines preventing most of us to do it on a first try. They also raise the prices of the wash during peak hours (I wanna say there's almost a 50-cent difference per wash between peak and non-peak hours.)

HOT WATER: It's been better, but for some reason, the hot water runs out at about 10 am and then again at about 10 pm. It turns out that some maintenance guy has to turn the water heater back on manually at the building and I guess he forgets to do it... I think they fired the guy because I haven't had that problem in a little while.

SMOKING: When I moved in, I was told that this is a non-smoking complex... non-smoking my A**! I smell cigarette smoke in the staircases, the lobby, and through neighbors' windows. I have asthma and this is really an issue. I had to buy about 5 air filter things and have them in every room. It's especially bad in the bathroom because somehow smokers think it's more polite to smoke out of the bathroom window and all of the ashes fly into our bathroom (and subsequently into the master bedroom.)

Other than that, it's a great place to live!

Still, by the grace of God I found Audrey a suitable apartment.  That's the topic of my next blog.  Here you can see us checking out my find.

Audrey gingerly entering Tuscany Apartments


me following


Ordering Pizza Rustica afterwards in the retail shop downstairs